We, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”), have heard this concern many times over the 38+ years our firm has handled adoptions in Indiana. In fact, our 4 attorneys have over 90 years of experience practicing adoption law. In our considerable experience, we have never heard of a baby’s father trying to make that argument. But, if one of the birth mothers, with whom we have worked, was to have to defend herself in such a case, we would offer to testify, in court, on her behalf that women do not proceed with adoptions because they don’t want or love their babies or because they want to get rid of their babies. They give their babies up for adoption, or, more correctly, make adoption plans for their babies, because they LOVE their babies and want what is best for them and believe that an adoptive placement would assure the children bright futures, in safe, secure, and loving homes. However, just because a birth mother may believe an adoptive family could do that better than she could, does not mean that she believes the father of the baby is better suited than her to parent the child.
Here is an analogy: I, Steve Kirsh, am a better-than-average golfer. If I were playing in a golf tournament and had the opportunity to have Tiger Woods finish the round for me to win the tournament, I would take it. But if he were not available, I believe I would have a better chance of winning than my son, Grant Kirsh, who is a very good adoption attorney but not a very good golfer. In other words, just because I believed someone else would have a better chance of success does not mean that ANYONE besides me would have a better chance.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us costs you nothing nor does it mean you ever have to talk or text with us, again. We can assist you with an Indiana adoption no matter whether you live in Carmel or Indianapolis, New Albany or Clarksville, Tell City or Newburgh, or Decatur or Ft. Wayne, or any Indiana county or city in between.
We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.
You can call, text, and or email us anytime —call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or a Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption”. If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant mom’s search results in Google.