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How to Make an Adoption Plan

Pregnant women today have a large amount of control over their baby’s adoption. They are in charge of every step of the process, from choosing an adoptive family to what sort of post-adoption relationship they want to have with the family. All of these determinations are part of what we call an “adoption plan.”

When you begin the adoption process, you will work hand-in-hand with an adoption professional to determine how you’d like the adoption to play out. Your adoption professional will explain to you all of the different aspects of the adoption. They will ask you questions about yourself and your hopes for the baby and help you determine what your preferences might look like. Your preferences will be documented and will be referred back to throughout the adoption process, ensuring that your rights and desires are protected and upheld.

How to Start an Adoption Plan

Step 1: Choosing an Adoption Professional

Choosing the right professional to help assist you during this trying time is one of the most important decisions you’ll make, for both you and your child. When looking for the right adoption professional, it’s important that they are…

  • licensed and have qualified staff to support you, both during your pregnancy and after the adoption.
  • working in your best interest and are available to you 24/7.
  • willing to help you build an adoption plan around your needs and goals.
  • only working with pre-screened adoptive parents who are committed to adoption.

If you choose to work with Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) , you can rest assured that we meet all of these requirements.

Step 2: Choosing an Adoptive Family

Once you’ve settled into working with the adoption professional of your choosing, you can begin to think about what kind of family you’d like to raise your baby. The adoption professional you’re working with will learn what attributes you’re looking for and then show you the families that best match your adoption plan.

To help you choose an adoptive family, consider these following questions:

  • Would you like to choose the adoptive family yourself? If not, would you be okay with the adoption professional choosing one for you?
  • Do you want an adoptive family that lives in the suburbs, in the city or the country?
  • Do you want the family to have children already, or do you want a smaller family that is waiting to have their first child?
  • Is there a specific profession you’d like the parents to have? Or maybe you’re looking for one that has a stay-at-home parent to care for the child 24/7.
  • What kind of pre-adoption and post-adoption contact would you like with the family?

Step 3: Making a Hospital Plan

One of the most important parts of the adoption plan is the hospital plan. Planning for and thinking about your hospital stay helps you center your attention on the health of both you and the baby.

When planning your hospital stay, here are some questions you should ask yourself:

  • Would you like your family members, loved ones, or the birth father to be with you at the hospital?
  • Would you like for the adoptive family to be at the hospital or even in the delivery room?
  • Would you like to spend some alone time with the baby? Maybe take pictures with them and/or the adoptive family?
  • Would you like to leave the hospital with your baby and/or the adoptive family?

Delivery and post-delivery will undoubtedly be a trying time. Remember that you will have both your social worker and your adoption attorney present with you during your stay. They are there to protect your rights and ensure that your interests are respected.

Step 4: Deciding on Post-Adoption Contact

Adoption today is largely more open than it ever has been in the past. When making an adoption plan, you’re able to determine just how much contact you’d like to have with the adoptive family both during and after your pregnancy. The amount of communication is entirely up to you.

Here questions you should consider when thinking about open or closed adoption.

  • Would you prefer to get to know the adoptive family before committing to placing your baby with them?
  • If so, would you like to speak with them over the phone or on Skype? Maybe you’d like to email them or even meet them in-person. Whatever makes you most comfortable is best.
  • Would you prefer to have an ongoing relationship with the adoptive family and be a part for the child’s life?
  • Would you feel more comfortable staying in touch through updates and photos? If so, how often would you like to be updated?

If you’re currently experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and would like to explore adoption as one of you several options, give us a call. We’re available to offer support and guidance, 24/7 with no obligation to choose adoption in the end.