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Birth Father FAQs

While most adoptions are centered around the birth mother, it’s important also to consider the birth father. Like the birth mother, the birth father has certain rights and can play a central role in any adoption. Below are some common questions surrounding the birth father.o succeed in the world today.

“Can I still give my baby up for adoption if the birth father is uninvolved or not supportive?

Although every adoption is different, there is a good chance that we could help you place your baby for adoption without the consent of the birth father. Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C. (“Kirsh & Kirsh”) can help you determine what is needed to move forward with your adoption plan and can help you explore all of your options.

“Even though my husband and I are married, can we still give our baby up for adoption?”

Regardless of relationship status, if the birth father is supportive of the adoption plan, the adoption can continue forward with no additional requirements. If both birth parents are supportive of the adoption, then you can work together to choose the right adoptive family and determine what level of contact you’d like to maintain with the adoptive family.

“We’re in the middle of a divorce and just found out we’re pregnant. What are our options?”

If you’re going through a divorce and find yourself facing an unplanned or unexpected pregnancy, adoption is certainly an option to consider. However, it’s vital that you understand both your rights as a birth mother, as well as the rights of the birth father and how they pertain to the adoption process. If you choose to consider an adoption plan, the adoption professional assigned to you can help you understand the best course of action.

What are my responsibilities as the birth father?

As we mentioned earlier, most adoptions focus on the birth mother. However, it’s not uncommon for birth fathers to experience the same range of emotions as birth mothers -whether that be sadness, confusion, or grief. Many of the birth fathers that we’ve worked with have expressed an embarrassment about adoption. They think that people will view them as irresponsible for not being able to provide for a child. That notion could not be further from the truth. Supporting or choosing an adoption does not make someone irresponsible. Instead, it means they’re owning up to their responsibility to do what is in the best interest of the birth mother and the child. If you choose to support the adoption, you can elect to be a part of the adoption plan, even if you and the birth mother are no longer together. If you are still a couple or amicable friends, you two can work together to create an adoption plan that works for you. You can also choose the adoptive family together and sort our how much contact you’d like to have with the adoptive family.

If we give the baby up for adoption, do I still need to pay for child support?

When an adoption is finalized, that means there has been a legal transfer of parental rights and responsibilities to the adoptive family from birth parents. Therefore, in the case of full adoption, the birth parents would no longer have any parental rights or responsibilities, which includes an obligation to pay child support.