I Have A Friend Who Is Pregnant. How Do I Get Her To Think About Putting The Baby Up For Adoption?
First, it is very important to remember that she is the mother of the child and has the right to make parenting decisions. It is okay to offer advice and guidance, but it is not your place to impose your judgment on her.
A good, non-judgmental way to start a conversation with a pregnant friend is to ask her: “How do you feel about being pregnant?” If she expresses concern, she has then opened the door for you to suggest other options such as giving the child up for adoption or, more correctly, making an adoption plan for the child.
If she seems excited about welcoming a child or another child into her family, you could ask questions that might cause her to assess her preparedness for a newborn better. Ultimately, she will need to conclude for herself that parenting the child may not serve the child’s best interest. Most people more willingly accept decisions they make on their own as opposed to those forced upon them. Those questions could include:
- How much energy does she have at the end of the day?
- How much one-on-one time does she spend with her child or children if she has another child or children?
- Who looks after her child or children and the new baby when she goes out or to work, and is that person willing to take responsibility for another child, particularly a newborn?
- How certain is she that the father of the baby will help her raise the child?
- How much unused funds does she have at the end of the month that she could use to provide for the new baby?
- What percentage of the cost of raising the child does she expect to receive from others, and how certain is she of their continued and ongoing commitment?
If your friend would like to explore adoption, we, at Adoption Attorneys Kirsh & Kirsh, P.C., the “Kirsh Boys,” as the adoption attorneys at Kirsh & Kirsh, are sometimes called – Steve, and his brothers, Joel and Rob, and his son, Grant – pride themselves on answering questions about adoption and explaining the process without pressure or judgment. They cannot make adoption an easy choice, but they can make it less scary by removing some of the unknowns. Ultimately, a birth parent will have to decide if adoption is in their own best interests and the best interests of their child. We, at Kirsh & Kirsh, will not and cannot make that decision for anyone, but we can provide information and answers to questions.
Our contact information is below. We will answer your questions and provide you the information you seek, without cost or obligation on your part. In other words, talking to us is FREE and does NOT mean you ever have to talk or text with us again. The Kirsh Boys have 90 YEARS OF COMBINED EXPERIENCE practicing adoption law. We can help you find an AMAZING, WONDERFUL, adoptive home for your precious baby, whether you live in Greenfield or Indianapolis, Columbus or Bedford, Evansville or Jasper, or Lafayette or Ft. Wayne, Richmond or New Castle, or any Indiana county or city in between, or ANYWHERE in Tennessee, Mississippi, or Kentucky.
We have lots of wonderful, carefully screened, loving families, FROM INDIANA AND ALL OVER THE COUNTRY (married, single, Lesbian, and Gay) who cannot wait to welcome a baby into their hearts and homes and are happy to assist with living expenses to the full extent allowed by law.
You can call, text, and or email us anytime –call: 317-575-5555, text: 317-721-2030, email: AdoptionSupport@kirsh.com, or Facebook message: https://www.facebook.com/KirshandKirsh/. We answer our office phone 24 hours a day, every single day. We try to respond to emails and text messages within minutes of receipt.
POSITIVE ADOPTION LANGUAGE DISCLAIMER: Please understand that these blog posts are written in a way to use language that people use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while all of us understand what positive adoption language means, most expectant moms who come to us first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the Internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby,” our website will not appear in most expectant moms’ search results in Google.