People struggle with decision making when the issue in front of them is really important. The best way to make any really important decision is to base the decision on reasons (facts) rather than emotions. A woman who is pregnant and trying to decide how she can provide for her child should take out a piece of paper and write down as many facts as she can think of about her circumstances and what she expects the future will hold and then organize those facts into two columns – “Facts that support parenting” and “Facts that support adoption”. She should work on and refine her list over as much time as she has available to make a decision and then make her decision based upon which of the two columns has the most compelling facts. Examples of some facts might be “I am not is a good place financially or emotionally.” “I am struggling taking care of myself.” “The father of the child and I have a long and stable relationship.” “I know I can count on him to be a good daddy and to always be there for the baby and me.”
Aside from the time involved in doing this exercise, the hardest thing about it will be to be honest about her circumstances.